Brad Wardell's views about technology, politics, religion, world affairs, and all sorts of politically incorrect topics.
Published on September 7, 2012 By Draginol In Business

First off, I want to thank all the people who have written their kind words of support these past few days.

I wish I could say this is the first time we’ve had to deal with a frivolous lawsuit and I wish I could say it was the last. It happens. It’s business. The only difference here is that one party doesn’t normally leak this sort of thing out to get press coverage.

It is amazing how many people will look at a bunch of unsubstantiated allegations and assume they’re true or assume that they are seeing even a tiny fraction of the full story.  I know I’m somewhat guilty of this since I have often taken the view “where there’s smoke, there’s fire”.

The emails I get often ask me how I “deal” with some of the vile and ignorant things that have been tweeted to me or said.  The answer is, you can’t take that sort of thing personally.  They’re reacting to drama they’re reading without really thinking any of it through.

I’ve been online for almost 30 years now – since Commodore 64 BBS days. It is extremely easy for someone to make things up and pass them off as fact.  I once got forwarded a claim by someone who said that we made female units in War of Magic weaker than males (they’re identical other than graphics).  But someone makes something up, it gets past on and it eventually becomes fact.

Heck, every time I go over to BluesNews.com, there’s some guy who insists I’m a Glenn Beck fan, a show I’ve never even watched. That’s why it is important to remember that the Internet isn’t real life.  That is why I’ve told my younger friends to be wary of taking their various virtual communities too seriously. It isn’t a replacement for personal relationships with people in real life.

When you are interacting with hateful people, don’t think of them as the norm. And while you can try to fathom where all that hate comes from, it’s ultimately irrelevant. People like that are always hating something. The phrase “haters are going to hate” is a truism. There are people out there who are miserable and there always will be.

There will always be people who will read unsubstantiated allegations, even ones that have direct contrary evidence, and still believe it because they have an inherent need to hate something or someone.  You can’t take those people personally. They’re facing an issue that you can never cure.

As someone who has had the opportunity to start their own business, literally from their dorm room, and build it up over many years, I’ve gotten to see this sort of thing ebb and flow.  My advice to those who have been tempted to lash back at these people who are filled with hate is to just ignore them. You might as well go out and yell at the rain.  You can’t change them. Only they can address whatever it is inside of them that makes them so ready to hate people they’ve never met (whether that be some Internet geek or a politician or celebrity).

The thing to remember is this: There is something fundamentally wrong with someone who is prepared to hate someone they've never even met. There's no point worrying about them.


Comments (Page 2)
on Sep 07, 2012

kevlarcardhouse
Keep flying that flag of delusion, brother.  Never mind that the only claims that seem unsubstantiated are the ones you have been claiming against her.  Never mind that even now you continue to lie and mislead.  (Please, all those legal files are public record - Nobody leaked anything).  The fact of the matter is that even if all your claims against her are true and she's making her side up, what we are still left with is tons of evidence that you're an ego-maniacal jackass who thinks it's your "right" to make your employees uncomfortable.  Hell, most of the documents that are convincing enough that you are guilty of sexual harassment comes from your own motion to dismiss filing, which reads like a textbook case of "she was asking for it".  The fact that you still don't understand that this is what people are angry about should be shocking, but I guess not because if you weren't this oblivious to what you were doing, you wouldn't be in this situation right now.

You should take your own advice and stop yelling at the rain like you've been doing non-stop because all this is doing is digging yourself deeper.

You see, when you need someone to demonstrate the point you're making, they appear as if by magic.

I could pick through the various eroneous assertions here but what would be the point? This isn't someone who's genuinely interested in seeking truth.  They're emotionally invested already.  

I don't think I could have said it better than he does, "you still don't understand that this is what people are angry about..."

They're angry. They're emotionally involved in something that they scarcely know any of the context but are ready to pass judgment and admit that they're angry about it.  

That's their problem and they really don't understand that this is their problem. 

Thank you for volunteering to make the point. You can go away now. 

on Sep 07, 2012

fapoop
How do you leak a public document Brad.

The federal case filing wasn't a publicly available file that could be accessed online. It was leaked by a user with a pseudonymn and then an "anonymous" source contacted various game sites.  Kate (from Kotaku) then followed up on that by contacting the plaintiff to find out more and obtained their filings.  So yes, they were leaked. 

We've got a couple other lawsuits pending (IP related) in federal court (patent troll related). Go ahead, try to see if you can find all the related filings.  Cases are a matter of public record. Getting ahold of exhibits, not so easy. As a practical matter, someone has to provide them.

But who am I kidding, I'm just feeding the troll.

 

on Sep 07, 2012

I was bored, I read the motion.  It was hilarious.  Sad, but still hilarious.

 

When it says that nearly all of her accusations have been withdrawn or altered by herself and that she was dodging her deposition for months, it's true.  If it weren't, millionaire lawyers would be in the big house shortly after it got delivered.

 

Someone here is definitely flying a flag of delusion.

on Sep 07, 2012

psychoak
I was bored, I read the motion.  It was hilarious.  Sad, but still hilarious.

 

When it says that nearly all of her accusations have been withdrawn or altered by herself and that she was dodging her deposition for months, it's true.  If it weren't, millionaire lawyers would be in the big house shortly after it got delivered.

 

Someone here is definitely flying a flag of delusion.
 

 

Yup. I doubt most of the people attacking Brad actually read the document.  If they did, they wouldn't be so eager to crucify him. The accusations that she is levelling at him can be levelled at anyone that sends an inappropriate email at work.  I get these all the time because people hit the respond-to-all without thinking about who is actually going to get a copy of their email.   I've personally witnessed some real face-palms in the past few years.  

on Sep 07, 2012

The last thing that the world's political and religious institutions want are people that can think for themselves. These institutions only want docile, unthinking sheep that will go and do what these sheep dogs decide is best. Small wonder that these intellectually stunted sheep will believe anything that is posted in the internet.

on Sep 07, 2012

@kku, I think the issue is that there are a lot of unhappy people on the Internet.  And they look for reasons to be "angry" at people. And their threshold for being "angry" is remarkably low.

on Sep 07, 2012

Frogboy


I can think of how many NSFW emails I get a week and now wonder if they have any idea what would happen if someone were to, using the power of legal discovery, scrounge through every single one and present it without context or without the full email chain could make them look however their antagonist chooses to present.

And those people who have some need to hate something will latch onto it. At least for awhile.

You really see this in politics. You have people who *hate* Obama/Romney.  But why? And really, there is no rational answer. They are just very angry.

 

Indeed.  I had a region supervisor for a federal government job cc a rick-roll email (I'm sure you know of those) only it was a redirect to a DoA song "You Spin Me Right Round" set to a homosexual .gif with a counter and a pop-up that opened a new window every time you tried to close it. I found it hilarious, but I know that this supervisor got suspended without pay for two weeks and had to take sensitivity courses.  Oh yea, good times.  

On another note, I have found that the typical "internet e-thug aka troll aka hater" can be put into one of four categories:  

An anonymous crusader who lives at home because he/she is either a teenager or an un/under-employed adult. Someone who is uneducated and tends to believe what ever the flavor of the moment happens to be. Someone who thinks they have an axe to grind with you over some perceived slight. The last candidate is the most despicable, this is a person who pretends to be something they are not and the anger they show you is due to their own shortcomings, and the only way they get relief is by attacking another person.

 

THe internet has equalized us all by bringing us down to the lowest common denominator.  We are at a crossroads right now.  Google is going to force people to use their real info on youtube.  Twitter and facebook are next.  Internet anonymity will disappear. People will be forced to treat you online the way they would in person.

on Sep 07, 2012

Am I the only one who finds the title of this post vs. the content within it ironically hilarious?

on Sep 07, 2012

That the Internet isn't real and that you can't take it too seriously? Or do you mean the guys who popped on without ever having made a post before who vented their spleens to make his point?

on Sep 07, 2012

I love all the armchair lawyers.  I talked to my dad's cousin's friend's aunt's neighbor who knows a lawyer and he told me that so and so will be in trouble.  Even if you are a lawyer, you aren't involved personally in the matter so you don't know jack. 

on Sep 07, 2012

On the Internet. Everyone is a lawyer except when they call tek support. Then they're an IT professional with decades exp.

on Sep 07, 2012

Wikipedia and google have made experts out of everyone overnight. They have replaced good old-fashioned exerience and common sense.

on Sep 07, 2012

Henry_Morgan
I love all the armchair lawyers. I talked to my dad's cousin's friend's aunt's neighbor who knows a lawyer and he told me that so and so will be in trouble. Even if you are a lawyer, you aren't involved personally in the matter so you don't know jack.

I had a neighbour of one of my clients state "I am going to oppose anything you propose to build....I know my rights...I am a Lawyer" ....to which my client responded [I couldn't...it's Professionally inappropriate] "yes, but are you a good one?"

 

TheJaker
On the Internet. Everyone is a lawyer except when they call tek support. Then they're an IT professional with decades exp.

You forgot also that every 16 year old girl on IRC is a 250lb trucker called Bubba and every 12 year old boy is an undercover FBI agent...

on Sep 07, 2012

"I may make ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist jokes, but I draw the line at you telling me that my jokes are ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist!" - Brad

on Sep 08, 2012

Swiss Knight
"I may make ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist jokes, but I draw the line at you telling me that my jokes are ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist!" - Brad

That's a quote I'm not familiar with.

However, but let's imagine someone used a murderer, like say Lenin, as their Internet avatar (hypothetically of course). And someone called them out on it and said, "I find it extremely sexist, vulgar and inappropriate for you have a disgusting avatar like that and that you must change it."

Now, I suspect a lot of people would say, "What the hell gives you the right to tell me what my avatar is?"

But let's assume you don't. Let's assume you say "Oh, I apologize, I'll change it, I didn't mean to offend you."  

But then they also say "And in addition, you do a lot of other, unspecified, stuff I similarly find offensive and you must change that."

Now, obviously I'm just giving you a hard time. But do you see how easy it can be for someone to claim offense when they don't even specify what they're offended about? I think a lot of people would be tempted to tell them to pound sand.

That's where context matters. 

 

 

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