Brad Wardell's views about technology, politics, religion, world affairs, and all sorts of politically incorrect topics.
Published on September 7, 2012 By Draginol In Business

First off, I want to thank all the people who have written their kind words of support these past few days.

I wish I could say this is the first time we’ve had to deal with a frivolous lawsuit and I wish I could say it was the last. It happens. It’s business. The only difference here is that one party doesn’t normally leak this sort of thing out to get press coverage.

It is amazing how many people will look at a bunch of unsubstantiated allegations and assume they’re true or assume that they are seeing even a tiny fraction of the full story.  I know I’m somewhat guilty of this since I have often taken the view “where there’s smoke, there’s fire”.

The emails I get often ask me how I “deal” with some of the vile and ignorant things that have been tweeted to me or said.  The answer is, you can’t take that sort of thing personally.  They’re reacting to drama they’re reading without really thinking any of it through.

I’ve been online for almost 30 years now – since Commodore 64 BBS days. It is extremely easy for someone to make things up and pass them off as fact.  I once got forwarded a claim by someone who said that we made female units in War of Magic weaker than males (they’re identical other than graphics).  But someone makes something up, it gets past on and it eventually becomes fact.

Heck, every time I go over to BluesNews.com, there’s some guy who insists I’m a Glenn Beck fan, a show I’ve never even watched. That’s why it is important to remember that the Internet isn’t real life.  That is why I’ve told my younger friends to be wary of taking their various virtual communities too seriously. It isn’t a replacement for personal relationships with people in real life.

When you are interacting with hateful people, don’t think of them as the norm. And while you can try to fathom where all that hate comes from, it’s ultimately irrelevant. People like that are always hating something. The phrase “haters are going to hate” is a truism. There are people out there who are miserable and there always will be.

There will always be people who will read unsubstantiated allegations, even ones that have direct contrary evidence, and still believe it because they have an inherent need to hate something or someone.  You can’t take those people personally. They’re facing an issue that you can never cure.

As someone who has had the opportunity to start their own business, literally from their dorm room, and build it up over many years, I’ve gotten to see this sort of thing ebb and flow.  My advice to those who have been tempted to lash back at these people who are filled with hate is to just ignore them. You might as well go out and yell at the rain.  You can’t change them. Only they can address whatever it is inside of them that makes them so ready to hate people they’ve never met (whether that be some Internet geek or a politician or celebrity).

The thing to remember is this: There is something fundamentally wrong with someone who is prepared to hate someone they've never even met. There's no point worrying about them.


Comments (Page 3)
on Sep 08, 2012

Re: Title

 

There are many of us that would say "Life isn't real Internet." I think neither of them really compare to the nomena we loosely base life and internet off of.

on Sep 08, 2012

Frogboy

Quoting Swiss Knight, reply 31"I may make ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist jokes, but I draw the line at you telling me that my jokes are ridiculous, disgusting, and sexist!" - Brad

That's a quote I'm not familiar with.

However, but let's imagine someone used a murderer, like say Lenin, as their Internet avatar (hypothetically of course). And someone called them out on it and said, "I find it extremely sexist, vulgar and inappropriate for you have a disgusting avatar like that and that you must change it."

Now, I suspect a lot of people would say, "What the hell gives you the right to tell me what my avatar is?"

But let's assume you don't. Let's assume you say "Oh, I apologize, I'll change it, I didn't mean to offend you."  

But then they also say "And in addition, you do a lot of other, unspecified, stuff I similarly find offensive and you must change that."

Now, obviously I'm just giving you a hard time. But do you see how easy it can be for someone to claim offense when they don't even specify what they're offended about? I think a lot of people would be tempted to tell them to pound sand.

That's where context matters. 

 

the difference is lenin killed a bunch of capitalists and your conduct couldn't possibly make it any more evident that he did the right thing

i bet you also get really mad you can't say racial slurs you enormous child

on Sep 08, 2012

Someone adcocates murder and fails to imagine how that might be offensive.

I think you should go away for awhile and grow up.

on Sep 08, 2012

i hope to live in a world where people like brad wardell are subjected to harassing emails about whether they've been tortured before but i dont think theyd put computers in gulags

on Sep 08, 2012

The Internet should have a minimum age limit.

on Sep 08, 2012

Before wishing death or torture on people they should probably remember that this is a moderated forum. 

on Sep 08, 2012

The Internet should have a minimum age limit.

 

 

IQ as well..

 

on Sep 08, 2012

Frogboy
Before wishing death or torture on people they should probably remember that this is a moderated forum. 

Perhaps they ARE aware...but are related to the species 'Lemming'...

on Sep 08, 2012

I find it interesting that it seems really only 2 people know the actual truth of the matter, but folks who are totally uninvolved are so quick to pass judgement and wish harm on another. 

on Sep 08, 2012

Nasarog
Yup. I doubt most of the people attacking Brad actually read the document.

Here here.  All trolls aside, I hope the truth prevails.

on Sep 08, 2012

I'm curious to know if you agree or dispute (I'm trying hard to come up with neutral words for this which don't sound like I'm supposing any conclusion) the email the Kotaku article quotes as from you, or perhaps if you would change the phrasing somewhat.  If you take that email as phrased, then you have called yourself sexist (the text given says that about you, not simply the jokes that you make). I have to say, my estimate of the probability that a workplace run by someone who is openly sexist is welcoming to a woman they employ is rather low.

on Sep 08, 2012

Having read all the documents last night (it took sometime ), if I were this individual's current employer she would be out of a job first thing Monday - I'd also be watching my back.

All work places need to have a high standard of professional conduct. Where the line is drawn is part of how formal/informal a workplace is, within minimum standards of professional conduct which should be accepted everywhere. This standard of conduct applies to the employer and employee equally.

People who know me, know I have a wicked sense of humour at times (step forward all you victims, hehe). However, I work in a college. I do not make jokes or comments of any kind; it has been known for people to appear in front of HR for what most people would consider to be normal banter My previous employer was in manufacturing and some of our 'shop floor' ladies had the kind of crudeness to make most of you cringe - a different environment entirely.

Sadly, when it comes to the internet, there isn't any kind of professional conduct at all. However, those of you wishing to troll or display ignorance, please remember everything on the internet is visible to everyone and you cannot take it back.

on Sep 08, 2012

I'm glad that our legal system is so wonderful, and that justice will prevail in all cases, and that the amount of money you're able to pour into a lawsuit will have nothing to do with the outcome in the end.

on Sep 08, 2012

You didn't get to my point, or answer my question, though. I'm not asking about what someone else called you or said about you; I'm asking about something you said about yourself. I wanted to know (and still want to know) if you really do view yourself or describe yourself as sexist.

on Sep 08, 2012

JVTruman
You didn't get to my point, or answer my question, though. I'm not asking about what someone else called you or said about you; I'm asking about something you said about yourself. I wanted to know (and still want to know) if you really do view yourself or describe yourself as sexist.

I don't.  And see, this is where the "reporting" really fails. Because all those documents were there. Remember, this whole thing, including our case against her (it's total BS to pretend that a change in venue is the same as us waiting two years to file charges against her, we filed charges against her almost 2 years ago).

IF they wanted to have a non-sensational story, they could have quoted from the various documents where I and every witness named are asked that very question to which the answer is: NO.   

All of that information is available in the public now. No, I'm not a sexist, vulgar, etc. person. That's why context matters.  It is up to the accuser to then say "Well, I then complained about specific incident X, Y, and Z and they did nothing to rectify it."  But there's no assertion like that.  Instead, we get a bunch of wild allegations in which *every* witness, including her "Best friend" said didn't happen.

But, even though the docs are there, that's not what gets reported. Consider that next time you see some sensational headline. And most people will fixate on some snippet without any context.

I, and Stardock, don't care what sex, race, nationality, or sexual orientation you are. We only care whether you can do the job.  I believe it's one of the big reasons we've been so successful over the years.  We're one of the oldest software studios around (20 years next year since incorporation).  If we didn't have such a good environment, we wouldn't be able to attract and keep world class talent. But, obviously, a hater is incapable of making that obvious logical conclusion.

 

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