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Published on November 11, 2005 By Draginol In Blogging

My younger son isn't doing so well with his academic career.  At least so far.  Luckily, it's just kindergarten.  But according to his teacher, he's at the very bottom of his class in both numbers and letters. 

He's 5.  And can only count to 13.  Can't spell his name and hasn't quite gotten the whole alphabet down.  The teacher explained this to us in our parent-teacher conference.

I asked, "Well, is it possible that he's...well...you know..just..dumb?" 

Once I regained consciousness, my wife suggested I not take that path.  So we've been working on helping him get up to speed more.  In a couple of days, he's up to counting to 30 and can spell his name.  But it's been more of a struggle. 

His older brother was reading at 3 on his own.  We didn't teach him or anything, he just sort of "picked it up".  So it's proving to be a real challenge in trying to bring the little guy up to par on these matters.  I actually don't think he's dumb.  If I had to guess, I'd say he was just developing at a slightly slower pace than the other kids.  I had similar issues when I was a kid, I was a slow learner and didn't get really caught up until 5th grade. 

At least it was caught early.  We have good teachers in our school district and they were able to bring his letter and number issues up to us matter of factly without any attempt to arm-chair diagnose or even jumping to any conclusions at all other than to provide us with some materials that might help us help him at home.  She said later in the year we can see how he's progressing and try to figure out what the best course is at that point.


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on Nov 15, 2005

Say what you want, as long as you dont disagree with certain people.

Oh, please.  Anyone can disagree with me until they are blue in the face.  It's when you start posting articles digging up from other articles and insulting people that it gets into "moderation".  Even people who have been accused as being an "ass kisser" to the admins have been on confinement in the past.  If you want to believe that there is a bias here, you can keep in your delusional world.  But, there isn't.  Plenty of people have had raging disagreements with me and lived to tell about it.  LOL  Jeez...this just gets more predictable and funnier the longer it goes on........

And, the fact still remains that people didn't know who I was referring to until she posted that article.  Enough said.  Classic "victim" response.

And, this is very off topic, so I won't respond to any other "off topic" discussions on this thread.

 

on Nov 15, 2005
And, this is very off topic, so I won't respond to any other "off topic" discussions on this thread.


Yep, figures.

Hey, I dont care, Im not going to kiss your ass. I write what I write. If you dont like it, then fine, get over it...dont read and move on. If Im on YOUR blog, then you can blacklist me. I dont see any reason for an admin to go in and push their weight aroud because someone told them to stop acting all high and mighty and back off. IF there is a clear violation of the TOU, then MAYBE there is a reason to confine someone for a certain amount of time, but I dont see a reason for confining someone, no matter who it is for such a long period of time (outside of the extreme). I guess...maybe if I was the one with the red button...I could, too, sit and giggle because Im the controlling one, but alas, I am not.

If my girlfriend is a victim...its more of a victim of utter uber stupidity on the part of people who dont like her arguing.

Do I think there is a bias? lol...holy crap. Where do I start? You can go back in my blogs and read the crap that people have said against me / us on here and what happens from you? I dont even get a wiff of a brain fart of a warning to anyone (including myself...even though I havent resorted to the depths people have taken on here to insult me). Then, someone tells you to stop acting so...higher up and haughty, you turn on the disco music and start singing to the tune of "Freak out," and confine her for what has been now around two months. WTF?

If you want to believe that there is a bias...there isn't.

It was also a bit of a test to see if she is learning or not........ so predictable.

testing her? Karma is weilding the power of the little red button...looking down from above, testing those to see if they are worthy to resume posting and commenting on other blogs. You want to see if she is learning? Way to go and act like a disciplinarian. She has only made like 20 freakin threads this month alone. It helps when you want to see, if you open your eyes up and look.

It just really sucks that she cant respond to anyone...like your side comments on here. You can say what you want and she cant reply to you at all. Bias?? Nooo, of course not. Thats one way to deal with something...lock them up, talk about them so they can hear you, but cant say anything...isnt that sneaky? 'teehee'

Its been two months....people make mistakes and the like...its called life, get over it. She even apologized, something of a rarity on here. If people dont want to hear her or whatever, that is their business as keepers of their own blog...they can blacklist who they want.
on Nov 15, 2005
Brad,
Sorry for my last post...not related at all to your thread.
on Nov 15, 2005
Well I have a child in 2nd grade. I feel my biggest mistake was to move to Puerto Rico when he was in pre-k. The school would not put him in Kinder due to his age but as long as he was in school I was fine. How ever due to financial problems I moved to PR to see if I could get back on my feet. Don't get me wrong, he gets good grades, just that the education system here in PR is far behind the US. He is only starting to learn how to write in second grade and he still has difficulties reading. We are partially responsible for not putting more time into teaching him at home as well. But I promise that will change. Even though we have been here for 2 years, he was only 5 when we moved here, he has not forgotten his English language and he picked up Spanish as well. Still things here in PR are too political. The Govt has their hands in everything and they suck at it. My younger son, age 2, will soon join the education system and I fear that his abilities will not be fully used. PR lacks a good education system and the teachers don't really care much for the students. It's a paycheck as far as most of them are concerned.

I plan on moving back to the States. Going to West Palm Beach FL and I will do everything within my power to make sure that both of my kids get a good education and make the most of it. My older son, now 7, is really good with PCs, I've been putting him behind one for years with children's learning programs that have helped a lot and I plan on doing the same with my younger son as well. I also make sure they get a good taste of education shows on TV as well. I figure if they gonna watch cartoons might as well learn while they do it. I admit to slacking off a bit with my kids before and worrying more about some me time. But no more. My kids are first and it's one of the main reasons for moving back to the States.

I believe I could have done better in life, people seem to think that I am very intelligent and can't seem to figure out why I work in mediocre jobs instead of being in a better position like maybe a manager in a big company or working with computers, which I seem to be gifted with, or something better that pays really good. Well I did got to school in PR for 8 years and it didn't seem to do me any good. So I also plan on going to school and get myself a computer related diploma or degree.

Keep up the good work Draginol, I'm sure your kids will do great as long as they have parents who care. It gives me faith that there is still hope for humanity. These types of articles make me look at myself and realize that some things do need to change in my life and I plan to do just that.
on Nov 15, 2005

I admit to slacking off a bit with my kids before and worrying more about some me time.

Yeah, that is a bit hard.  It's hard to juggle time with your kids, work, all the stuff you have to get done, and still get in some "sanity" time.  No parent is perfect.  All you can do is keep trying.

..........

Ziggy, why not try and discuss what this article is about instead of your ulterior motive?

 

 

on Nov 15, 2005
Brad...I don't think you're an "insensitive dad". Some kids just learn at a different pace. Some here might argue that that makes your son "stupid," but it just means that it'll click when it'll click. I have kids that are "clicking" in reading right now and it'll take other kids till the middle of the year, the end of the year, or maybe not even till next year. Practice 15 minutes a night and he'll get there. And in primary...chronological age is very related to achievement. My kids who are summer or late spring birthdays tend to be later bloomers, too. He'll get there. It's too soon to freak out about it yet.
on Nov 15, 2005

Brad...I don't think you're an "insensitive dad".

Someone got off restriction!  Congratulations lady!  Please post away on all you think!  Finally!

on Nov 15, 2005
Someone got off restriction! Congratulations lady! Please post away on all you think! Finally!


Thanks to Brad and Dharma! SOme people like to keep throwing things in my face, and continue arguments way past their "funness" just to keep me in jail. Whatever!

DG...the more i talk to you the more you remind me of my dad. That's a compliment.
on Nov 16, 2005

DG...the more i talk to you the more you remind me of my dad. That's a compliment.

I'll take it that way, even tho I 'splained' to others that I am a lousy father figure!

on Nov 16, 2005
Someone got off restriction! Congratulations lady! Please post away on all you think! Finally!


Congrats!

Brad, I laughed out loud when I read "Well, is it possible that he's...well...you know..just..dumb?" Priceless...

As for the off-topic thing... I'm just glad not to be the center of this spat. In retrospect, I was probably overreacting much of the time that I felt that Karma and Brad were overcensoring; it just feels that way when you feel like your ability to express your opinions are in jeapardy.

Dan
on Nov 16, 2005
As for the off-topic thing... I'm just glad not to be the center of this spat. In retrospect, I was probably overreacting much of the time that I felt that Karma and Brad were overcensoring; it just feels that way when you feel like your ability to express your opinions are in jeapardy.


I just have an issue when people in authority positions like to see you bow to them so they can hear you say "you're right" because they don't like you. It's not about fairness. It's personal. Thank heavens for sensical people like Brad who "know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em". Some people just don't know when to stop.

Anyway...Brad...how's your little guy doing, a week after you posted? How much can he count now?
on Nov 18, 2005
~struck by random thought she felt compared to share~

The only difference between ass-kissing and brown nosing is depth perception.


OMG this is just too damn funny! Okay who do I send the bill to for my 17"LCD monitor that I spit coffee all over!
on Nov 18, 2005
Thanks to Brad and Dharma!


huh? I had nothing to do with that.
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